So, you’re going to have anal sex, are you? Or at least you’re thinking about it? It can be a totally sensual experience, but if you’re not used to it, the thought of it can be a little frightening. With so many myths and facts floating around, who’s to know what you’re actually supposed to do – and what you’re not supposed to do – right?
There are tons of articles out there telling what you should do, but what about what not to do? Take a look at these Do’s and Don’ts for a better idea of what you’re getting yourself into.
DO NOT take a laxative. Anal sex is not fun, and not recommended, when you feel like you need to make a bowel movement. So while a laxative the morning of or day before sounds like a good idea – it’s not. Laxatives usually make your stool incredibly soft, and often turns to diarrhea (sorry, it’s an ugly word but its’ got to be talked about). This will irritate the tissues around the anus, making the sex painful and will encourage more tears in the tissue which can lead to infection.
DO eat a diet rich of fibre. Instead of a laxative, try to eat a diet rich in complex fibers such as fruit, vegetables and whole grains that will keep your bowel movements regular and healthy.
DO NOT penetrate both anally and vaginally. If you’re already penetrating the anus, do not switch to vaginal sex without washing your penis or changing the condom. There is a natural bacterium in the anus that doesn’t do good things to the vagina. Switching back and forth will cause a bacterial infection in the vagina.
DO use a toy or change condoms. If the woman would like to feel the sensations of being penetrated in the anus and then the vagina (or simultaneously), use a dildo for the vagina, or you can change condoms between vagina and anus, but depending how many times you want to switch back and forth – that could get expensive.
DO NOT be scared of feces. During penetration, don’t be squeamish about the possibility of fecal matter on his penis. 99% of the time, it never happens. The only time there is any fecal matter stored near the anal hole, is right before a bowel movement – otherwise, it’s a pretty clean area.
DO douche if you’re still uncomfortable. If you’re planning on deep penetration and you’re still nervous about fecal matter, use an anal douche. Just don’t do this too much, as a douche can upset the natural pH balance of your body.
And above and beyond everything else – make sure you and your partner are completely comfortable with each other. Knowing your partner will love you no matter what will make most of your worries go away.