If you ask almost any guy out there what his favorite sex position is, he’ll probably tell you that he loves it when a girl is on top. Why? Well for one, he doesn’t have to do all the work for once and two, he gets to look at your amazing body while you’re bouncing around on top of him. Plus, he gets a pretty good view of the actual penetration down below, and guys love to watch the action. Unfortunately for them, a lot of girls don’t jump at the chance to climb aboard their man and start workin’ it. But why? Here we lay out the good, the bad and the ugly sides of being on top.
The biggest reason why women are reluctant to jump on top, is that they are self-conscious of their body. Isn’t that crazy!? The exact reason why guys love it so much is the reason why so many women avoid it. Just remember that your partner is not looking at the way your stomach has that roll, or how your boobs are bouncing out of control. Okay, wait – that part he is looking at, but it’s a major turn on for him. Guys love to watch their women enjoying sex, so just relax and let loose. You may actually find it pretty erotic.
Besides the fact that you’re scared you look terrible, you know that it’s SO tiring! Especially if you’re bouncing up and down, you’ll likely be tired after just a minute or two. So change it up. Go from bouncing up and down to grinding back and forth. And place your man’s hands on your hips so he can help your body move. It’s amazing how much longer you can last with just a little help from your man.
Plus, having him guide your body will help you know if he’s enjoying himself. Many women aren’t sure of themselves when they’re on top – always wondering if he is enjoying it. Just watch his facial expressions, and you should be able to tell, but if not, have him guide your hands or simply ask him if it feels good.
The good (or why you should get on top)
First of all, he loves it. Men are the dominant one in almost every sex position out there – except this one. So what’s not to love? He gets to lean back and relax while you grind him in every way you desire. The more aggressive you get, the more men typically like it, as it makes them feel incredibly desirable. Not to mention that he gets a great view of his favorite gal, too.
But just because he loves something doesn’t mean you have to – however, climbing on top is something you should learn to appreciate. It’s the one position where you have complete control over the speed, depth and angle of the penetration. For many women, this is the only position in which they can achieve orgasm during sex. Instead of doing the typical up and down motion, try grinding forwards and backwards, keeping your body tilted slightly forward. This will allow you to rub your clitoris against his pelvis for extra stimulation that you’ll love.
Just don’t get stuck in doing only one position while on top. Try switching it up by leaning as far back as you can, or by turning around and facing his feet. These different variations will deliver different sensations, and you may just fall in love with one of the positions.
So the point is, stop being afraid of getting on top, and show your man what a wild stallion you can be in the bedroom. Trust me- he’s going to love it.