Reaching orgasm is usually a lot easier for men than it is for women, but many men also don’t experience orgasms to their full potential. Here are some tips to help make orgasms better for both men and women.
1. Notice your surroundings
Whether you get off on candle-lit romantic rooms, or rooms with lots of windows to show off your exhibitionist side, make sure the surroundings are working for you – and especially not against you. Have sex in a messy or smelly room can really distract you from what you’re trying to achieve.
While you’re having sex, let your imagine run wild. Imagine you’re in a risqué setting like the office or in a park or imagine there is something watching you – anything that might turn you on just a little bit more. Heck, even imagine that your partner is someone else if you really want – just never tell them you do that. And – never accidentally call out the wrong name!
Don’t forget that you and your partner aren’t just genitals. Take some time to explore the rest of each other’s bodies to really get the heat pumping. Kiss their back, stomach, legs or feet, and run your hands over their entire body. Kisses behind the ear can be incredibly erotic. Also, don’t forget the backdoor button – gentle stimulation around the anus can really increase the intensity of an orgasm.
4. Take a break
Each time the man thinks he is about to erupt he should pull out and just focus on being intimate for a while, without any penetration. Embrace each other, kiss, just be close for a few minutes before he enters again. The more times he can do this, the more urgent your need for each other will eventually become. When you both do orgasm, it will be far more intense than if he hadn’t pulled out a few times.
5. Be rough
I’m not saying hit each other, but don’t be afraid to show your partner how much you want them. Pulling their hair (gently but firmly) or pinning down their arms while you ride them can often show your partner how into the sex you are. In turn, it will make your partner more aroused too. Do be careful here, as every person has different thresholds of enjoyment when it comes to rough sex.
6. Be in the moment
When most people orgasm, it’s as if they’re head is in a completely different world. Next time you orgasm, try to stay present – that is – focus on the great feeling instead of just letting your body take control. Really try to feel the sensations, and you will be able to feel them a lot stronger.