A common misconception about masturbation is that it is something that only single people do. That is not, and should not be the case. Even in an excellent sexual relationship with a partner, continuing to explore your sexuality on your own can mean great things for both of you.
The first step to having good sex with is knowing how to get your own self off – understanding where and how you like to be touched is important so you can pass this information along to your sexual partner.
That being said, mutual masturbation is a sex act that is often overlooked, but that can provide serious intimacy and passion in a relationship.
Pleasuring yourself with a partner
Mutual masturbation simply means that two people will pleasure themselves in front of each other. And while it may sound a little bit strange at first, it’s a great way to get to know what your partner likes – by watching them do it to themselves. If you’re a beginner in this area, follow these simple tips to add a bit of self-love into your sexual routine for incredibly intimate experience.
Remember – it’s natural
For many people, touching themselves in front of their partner may seem embarrassing or awkward, but it really doesn’t have to be. Self-love is a completely natural act and most people practice it on a regular basis. So just remember this going in and know that your partner is likely feeling the same nerves as well. Just try to relax.
Find a position that allows for both of you to be comfortable with easy access for pleasuring yourselves, but also make sure that your positions allow a good view for your partner. Get close enough to each other that you can really see what the other person is doing, but not so close that you’re in each other’s way. Prop up pillows to make sure that you can last a while in the position you’ve found.
Talk it out
If you’re nervous about beginning, ask your partner what they’d like you to do to yourself. Allowing yourself to believe that you’re doing this solely for their pleasure will take some of the embarrassment out of the situation. However, remember that part of the benefits of this sexual act is to show your partner what you like – so make sure you don’t only listen to what they want you to do – show them what you really like as well. And feel free to add some vibrators and some male sex toys of any kind as well – the more the merrier in this case.
Since you’re both pleasuring yourselves, it will be easier to control when you finally climax, so aim to do it at the same time and look each other directly in the eyes when it happens. Climaxing at the same time will add a level of intimacy to the act, and make the orgasm more intense.
Other benefits of mutual self-pleasure
Not only is the act excellent for sexually active couples, but it’s a great way for new couples to become intimate before they engage in actual intercourse. It allows you to get familiar with each other’s bodies without going too far too fast.
As well, by pleasuring your own selves, there is no risk of transmitting sexually transmitted diseases and definitely no risk of pregnancy either. And while some people may be skeptical about trying it, you will quickly realize that watching your partner pleasure themselves can be seriously intimate and erotic and may bring you to a climax unlike anything you’ve experienced together before.