If you’re wondering whether you’re a bad kisser, the clues are always in the way that your partner reacts to you. How did the first one with them go? Did they seem into it? Did it last a long time? If it seemed like a short session, it could have been just the timing. However, if they haven’t initiated a smooch-session since then – it could be that you’re bad at it.
Does your partner stop and hold your head still while you’re kissing each other? Or does your partner switch to other parts of your body such as your neck – shortly after you initiate a makeout session? What about when you say good-bye to each other – do they come in for a your mouth or give you a peck on the forehead or cheek?
If any of this seems familiar to you, it could very well mean that you’re not a good kisser – yet. Practice makes perfect, but in the meantime you need to understand what you’re doing wrong so you can fix it up for the future. Here are the top 5 things that make someone not so good:
1. You think too much
If you’re really nervous, or too focused on ‘using the right technique’ it’s not going to feel natural. Instead of focusing on proper technique, just close your eyes and read your partner’s movements. Move together as if your mouths and tongues are dancing – feel the flow.
2. Too much tongue
Try not to put your entire tongue in their mouth – they’ll get the feeling that you’re trying to swallow them whole. While ‘Frenching’ does involve the tongue, you’re not trying to choke your partner. Keep the tongue to smaller movements, and no more than half your tongue should ever cross to the other side.
3. No variance
If all you do is put your tongue in their mouth and swirl it around for 5 minutes, they’re going to get bored. You need to change up the tongue-swaps with soft, slow, intimate pecks, and a lingering close-mouthed. Pull back every now and then, when they’re not expecting it, to create a spark of energy between you. Just don’t do the same thing constantly.
4. Too aggressive
The act of making out is definitely fun, and I’m sure you’re excited, but don’t get too aggressive. Opening your mouth too wide will mean that you’re slobbering all over the area around their lips, making them feel like you’re trying to literally eat their face. Be sweet and gentle, with a touch of pressure if you want to show your passion.
5. Too much teeth
Nibbling or sucking on the lips can be very sexy, but you need to do it softly and you need to do it sparingly. If your partner feels like they just got Botox injections when they’re finished because their lips are so swollen – they’re not coming back for seconds any time soon.