Unfortunately, there is no list of rules that will guarantee that someone falls in love with you. Love is a lot more complicated than that, and since true love is something that is going to last a lifetime, there are no sneaky ways that you can fool someone into loving you. You can, however, work on making yourself the best partner you could possibly be in order to have the best chances at love.
1. Love yourself
Before someone else can fall in love with you, you need to love yourself. If you’re always telling your partner about all the ways you think you could improve yourself, or talking about your flaws, you’re basically saying to them ‘you shouldn’t love me’. Even if you don’t feel 100% confident about yourself, keep those things to yourself. Project a confident you to your partner, so they can see someone they can depend on in the future.
2. Listen to your partner
Many people will tell a lot about themselves by how they react to other people’s situations. If someone gets married at 24, and your partner voices that it’s too young, you can be sure that they are not going to be ready for marriage at that age. Listen to what your partner tells you directly about what they want in the relationship, and what they tell you indirectly too. It’s a good way to learn what they really want (or don’t want) out of the relationship and if you’re capable or willing to provide it.
3. Be thoughtful
If you can anticipate your partner’s needs before they voice them – they’re never going to want to let you go. If your partner had a rough day at work, show up at their place as they arrive home with their favorite takeout and a bottle of wine. After dinner, give them a massage to work out the stress-kinks. Anything you can do to show your partner that their needs are very important to you will win major points.
4. Don’t be needy
Yes, we all want to end up in a perfect, loving relationship, but you also need to just ‘let it be’. Many people who are actively seeking a long-term relationship tend to want to jump the gun, getting too intimate or committed too fast. While it’s great to be there for your partner and help them whenever you can, don’t end up attaching yourself at the hip like a pest they can’t get rid of. It’s okay to have alone time too.
5. Be yourself
If they don’t love you for who you are, do you really want to be in the relationship? While it’s okay to put yourself out there, and do romantic or thoughtful things for your partner, don’t try to change yourself into someone you’re not because you think they’ll like it better. Be who you are, and if that doesn’t work – there’s someone out there who will love you just the way you are.