Overcoming the taboo and apprehension about anal sex is a significant milestone in any person’s sexual quest. Sometimes the delight of anal sex is an accidental discovery, sometimes a more experienced lover helps the other partner to realise that at its best, anal sex can be even more rewarding than straight sex.
In the case of men it can be the most rewarding sexual experience of all. That’s because the prostate is located two inches inside the anus to the front. This walnut sized gland is responsible for the production of seminal fluid, and when massaged it can create some of the most exquisite sensations imaginable. Gentle pressure placed on the prostate through the lining of the rectum wall can produce the male multiple orgasms, and some men have reported sensations such as the earth moving and losing all sense of time.
Once you’ve decide you want to experiment with anal sex, there’s a routine to get used to which will really help to relax you and enhance the experience both for you and your partner.
First things first, you need to observe basic hygiene. If you are going to be the receiver of anal sex, you need to urinate and have a bowel movement so as to be completely comfortable and confident during the session. After toileting, you need to shower, paying particular attention to your sex organs and anal area to get them thoroughly clean for the pleasures to come. This can be done with the use of an anal douche which is readily available on many online sex stores. Fill it with warm soapy water, insert it and it will clean out your back passage effectively, giving you much more confidence for the anal sex session.
When you’re showered, remember this is a session for which you need to feel both aroused and yet relaxed. Anal sex does feel strange the first time so you need to feel as receptive to the experience as possible. Soft lights and soft music might sound like a lovemaking cliché, but they are a cliché because they genuinely work to soothe nerves and calm the senses.
If you want to really chill out first, ask your partner for a relaxing massage before the session. It will relax your whole body and make you even more at ease.
The essential ingredients for anal sex are patience and a good quality anal lube.
Patience is needed because if you are trying anal sex for the first time it needs to be taken step by step. Whether a finger, an anal sex toy, or a penis is being inserted, it’s not a question of just charging in. Any object being introduced to the anus needs to be lubed properly with water based or silicone lube, and attempted slowly, allowing you time to get used to the sensation of a foreign object inside the rectum. If your partner is probing you with his or her fingers get them to wear a latex glove. If it is with his penis, he should use a condom.
The anus has no lubrication of its own so lubrication is essential at all times so as to make insertion comfortable and movement slick. It’s a good idea to get aroused sexually in other ways before attempting anal sex. If you discover you don’t enjoy the sensations, ask your partner to stop. The lining of the rectum is delicate and can tear easily so a gentle approach is very important.
When finishing any anal sex session it is essential to observe good hygiene by washing your hands thoroughly along with any sex toys that may have been used.
