For those unaware, BDSM stands for Bondage & Discipline / Sadism & Masochism. And yes, believe it or not, but it sounds worse than it really is. First of all, BDSM is all about fun – mutual fun. It won’t work if only one desires to try it. Moreover, BDSM is something you can enjoy step by step. There’s no need to go straight to the hardcore stuff.

What is BDSM All About?

BDSM is playacting with a simple theme: there’s a master and a slave, one who dominates and the other submits. You’ve no doubt heard that a little pain makes pleasure all the more delicious, right? Think of your most important achievements in life. Weren’t the ones that meant a lot to you were the ones that you worked hard for the most as well?

The same rules definitely apply to sex. What’s a little pain when double your usual pleasure is promised in return? And that’s what BDSM is all about. Both of you have to “suffer” a little. Of course, the idea of suffering without rules does seem extreme and it is if both of you are new to BDSM. That’s why it’s better to establish rules at the start.

Information

Surprises are great, but not when it’s your first time for either or both of you to try BDSM. This is something that both of you should discuss and be fully in favor of. Try looking for couples who have tried it out and found pleasure with it. Use their experiences to help your determine whether BDSM is for you or not.

Safe Word

Once both of you decide to try it out, you need to establish a “safe word” next. A safe word should be something that normally isn’t included even in your daily vocabulary, such as “pulchritudinous”, which means beautiful by the way, or Rumpelstiltskin. When one of you uses the safe word, all BDSM play must be put to a stop!

This allows both partners to fully invest in their “roles” but without ever becoming in danger of going beyond their own or their partner’s limits.

Nice and Slow

Don’t be in a hurry when you finally give BDSM a try. Take things nice and slow. Do things one at a time and savor each experience. You’ll get better and derive more pleasure from this technique that way.

Recommended Light BDSM Kits for Beginners

If you don’t know how or where to start, purchasing any of these kits will give you the cue you need.

Red Rendezvous Kit

Red Rendezvous Kit

This set includes a whip, blindfold, and a cock ring all in the blazing shade of passion red.

The cock ring is made of high-quality leather, which it extremely comfortable to wear. Its 3-speed snap closure system ensures that neither of you will ruin the atmosphere by fumbling and having a hard time putting it on. It has an adjustable fit and extremely flexible to allow all sorts of movements. So be ready to face the commands of your master!

The blind fold is made of the same high-quality leather and with black faux fur trimming. It’s also adjustable and easy and comfortable to use with a black elastic satin-like band.

Finally, the whip has a length of ten inches – long enough to put a little space between you and your ‘slave’. The handle is easy to grasp and even comes with a D-shaped metal ring for added authenticity.

Kitty Kat Mask with Whip

Kitty Kat Mask with Whip

To exude maximum feline grace and channel some Halle Berry into your sexual technique, consider donning a Kitty Kat mask while holding a cool, animal-patterned whip on one hand.

This kit is ultra sexy as it’s been tested and designed for Tera Patrick. You only have to feel the soft and very much sensual texture of the mask and whip and your role as dominatrix will come naturally to you. Also, the furry material makes it easier and more comfortable to wear than masks made of PVC or vinyl. Your face won’t have to sweat or get itchy, which is likely to happen with other materials, and this will allow for lengthier BDSM play. An elastic strap makes sure that your mask stays secure, your identity completely hidden, as you give your slave a little bit of pleasurable torture.

The kit comes with a cat-o-nine tail-styled whip, which is appropriate enough for your costume. It also has a wrist strap to keep your whip always within reach.

Sexy Slave Kit from Sportsheets

Sexy Slave Kit from Sportsheets

If you’re looking for a more comprehensive but also more beginner-friendly selection then check out the slave kit designed from Sportsheets.

The kit comes with the requisite blindfold, flaming red in color, and made of velvet-like fabric for user comfort. It has a nylon head strap to secure the blindfold in place throughout your BDSM play.

Instead of the usual whip, this slave kit offers a less intimidating but just as tortuous alternative: a feather tickler. It’s made of red and black feathers and comes with a wrist strap for a no-slip hold and guaranteed continuous sensual torture.

Finally, the slave kit offers a pair of ankle and wrist cuffs each. After all, why should you have to turn your room upside down just to look for something soft and secure enough to tie up your slave? That’s only going to take more time away from your BDSM play. The cuffs have Velcro snaps for quick and easy use and a secure fit. It’s made of fur-like fabric so you won’t have to worry of accidentally hurting your partner with rough play. Extended nylon straps are also offered if you want to give your ‘slave’ more room to move.

BDSM Fantasy Kit from Sportsheets

BDSM Fantasy Kit from Sportsheets

If, on the other hand, you think you’re ready to test the next level – but not go all the way straight to hardcore play – then check out the Fantasy Kit, which is also offered by Sportsheets. It offers four Velcro-snap latex ankle and wrist cuffs, a leather blindfold, and two extra straps for tethering.

For greater fun consider switching roles from time to time.

Light BDSM Kits for Beginners
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